The Generational Effects of Humility and Pride

This week, there was a firestorm over a policy clarification by the LDS church. Due to the legalization of Gay Marriage in the US and other countries, new situations have arisen that the church needed to answer enough that leaders needed to make a blanket policy to keep the will of the Lord very clear. In fine, gay marriage was defined as apostasy, and children of gay couples have been given the privilege of choosing baptism for themselves after they are legally able at the age of 18, so they don't have to ask their "apostate" parents for consent. The reaction has been polarizing to say the least. Most have acted as Nephi, humbly taking the revealed amendments as God's will. Yet, many members have questioned, been angered, or felt ashamed by giving ear to those who have pointed the finger of blame at the church! Also, there are those who have been downright mean about it. I encountered a few of these treasured souls on my Facebook post over the weekend. The gray areas have faded to black. Which side of the line are you on? Here's my admonishment to all those looking for answers:

THE BOOK OF MORMON: a guide for our time

Do you think it is by chance that the Book begins with the story of a Prophet (Lehi) receiving a hard revelation (to move his family from Jerusalem), and his family's subsequent polar opposite reactions to that revelation? Nephi, humbly submissive and trusting in the prophet, not only obeyed, but risked his life numerous times for that revelation. Laman, full of pride, disagreed. He thought he had a better plan, that Lehi was a visionary man. How, oh how, could Jerusalem, that great city be destroyed? Well Lehi left Jerusalem in 600 BC, Jerusalem was plundered in 597 BC, Nephi arrived in the Americas in 592 BC, and in 587 BC Solomon's Temple was destroyed. Its quite possible Nephi had a temple constructed in the Americas before Solomon's temple was ruined. Had Lehi listened to those pointing their fingers and mocking, staying in Jerusalem, we wouldn't have the Book of Mormon.

As the story goes, Nephi continued this habit of humility, and God helped him and his progenitors through the 1000-year history, as long as they humbly sought God's guidance. When deferring to God's will, they were blessed with peace, success, clarity, revelation above their mind's origination and God made up for their weaknesses by adding strength. When pride set in, as it did in the beginning for Laman, they were left to their own human reasoning, without the vision and eternal perspective. They became carnal, savage, cold, hateful and even blood-thirsty. Laman leaves the safe haven of the gospel every chance he gets and he always gets stung! How clear do the words need to be? Don't leave!!!

Like I said I was bombarded today with haters. I was called every swearword in the book for standing up for agreeing and voicing my support for the prophet... wait... that kind of sounds familiar...

OH YEAH! Lehi! Continuing on with the first story in the Book of Mormon, Lehi speaks of a vision he received regarding the Tree of Life (1 Ne 8). In that vision Lehi, guided by Christ, finds a tree with the most sensational fruit! After trying it, he wants everyone he loves to try it as well! He looks for them and sees a rod of iron along a strait and narrow path through the mists of darkness that enshroud men. He sees his family and beckons them to come. Much of his family arrives at the tree at eats the fruit, but the ever prideful Laman and Lemuel refuse. His family, filled with joy, ushers in multitudes of others to come and partake of the fruit and they do! Then (v. 27-28), in the distance, a great and spacious building is described. "It was filled with people... in the attitude of mocking, pointing their fingers towards those who had come and partaken." I kind of imagine the Wynn in Las Vegas, with Electronic Dance Music blaring out of it (that would get my attention for sure). Some, after they had arrived AND partaken were "ashamed", because they turned their eyes from the tree (which notably represents the Love of God), quickly forget the sweetness of the fruit and are mesmerized by those that are scoffing at them; and tragically, they fall away into forbidden paths and are lost while seeking their way to that floating building. How clear is this parallel?

Is it by mistake that the first few pages of the Book of Mormon are there to remind us that there are mists of darkness that will cloud our view to make it to the tree, only to be defeated by the continuous grasping of the Rod of Iron (The word of God)? Or that the Great and Spacious building (The World) will always be there to mock those partaking weekly of God's love? 

Thus, regarding the children who everyone is up in arms about, let us notice (V. 23) "they who had commenced in the path did lose their way, that they wandered off and were lost". Does this not parallel the theoretical situation of an 8-year-old kid who has gay parents, who outwardly oppose the prophet's counsel against their marriage; yes that very prophet he will say he believes in during his interview before the baptism. The day he "commences his path" in baptism, he will also go home to a mist of confusion. Every single week for 10+ years, that child will spend 165 hours in a home with parents who have acted in opposition to follow the prophet (a commitment he made at baptism) and will spend 3 hours partaking of eternal doctrines that oppose his gay parent's union. No matter the faithfulness of his leaders, family and especially his parents, the odds of such a child "holding to the rod" are nearly insurmountable. The vision says this child would be "Ashamed" and "Lost in forbidden paths." Is this new policy not a merciful one that would keep such torture out of the life of an 8-year-old child?

How wonderful is the Book of Mormon, translated by the miracle of a 3rd grade education, with the depth of Deity. Is it not God that gave that humble 14-year-old boy Joseph an answer, because he trusted in the most recent scripture given to him? How gracious is God to the humble who ask for help? In contrast, how abandoned do the prideful feel when things don't go the way they think they should.

Are you going to question the Prophet? From the depths of my soul, I urge anyone who has any question whether the LDS church's policies are "discriminatory, unfair, or uninspired" to crack open the Book of Mormon (grab hold of the Rod), get on your knees (arrive at the tree), and HUMBLY ask God if LDS leadership is inspired. Partake of the Fruit, I urge you!

You'll feel God's love wash over you, and you'll know. Keep eating! And by all means, don't leave!

A TALE OF PRIDE: 2 sisters and their fate

The topic of Apostasy hits close to home for me. I won't bore you with the personal details. I will however share what I have learned from a couple of personal experiences in dealing with apostate Mormons. I've learned to recognize the causes and effects, and how the choices of prideful parents can ripple through generations harming dozens.

First, is a true story about the beautiful families of two dynamic sisters and how pride affected one, and humility the other. To keep things anonymous, one was brunette (we'll represent the pride side with her) and one was blonde (lets represent the humble side with her). Get it? Dark Side vs. Light Side?

Both of these beautiful sisters were raised with high expectations and lived up to these expectations throughout their formative years. The brunette fell in love with a brilliant man. This man was so smart, he found he could smart his way through life without asking much help from God. A genius, he can tell you where every single scripture is on the page and quote it from memory. Prideful, this bright mind became self-dependent, needless of the opinions of others and thinking he himself knew the will of God. His way was the right way. He always sought positions and wanted everyone to know just how smart he was. His beautiful brunette wife and he began to raise a family. Money and appearance was always important to he and his children. They piled on the debt to try to appear wealthy before they had the means.

Right next door lived the blonde sister and the humble, hard working man she fell in love with. This man, in contrast, loved and trusted in God more than himself. His genius was based on his ability to pray and seek God's direction for his family. He gave no ear to those who questioned his faith or mocked his humble beginnings. He had a quiet confidence about him and raised his family to love God, the Prophet, the Church and to trust that Christ led His church. This man and his stalwart wife knew and recognized they had weaknesses and humbly depended on God to make up the difference for them. Through hard determined work, they slowly started putting money away. They never lived beyond their means, not caring what the outside world thought of their appearance.

Lets fast forward 30 or so years from the time these sisters were next-door neighbors. Both sisters had homes full of kids. Both families had talented children born to them. Both families continued in their habits to live by pride, or humility as aforementioned. As you could easily foresee, the brunette's family struggled through life. Although they had the big houses in the nicest neighborhoods, drove the nicest cars and had the nicest attire, the truth is, they had nothing! The prideful husband had to turn to illegal means to provide for his family. He was called to leadership positions in the church and taught his opinions from the pulpit. Having been reprimanded by his stake president, he continued to preach his own philosophies mingled with scripture. Unrepentant, he earned himself a church disciplinary council. What's worse, his pride told him not to attend. Kids, if there's one thing you can't do, its not show up to your disciplinary council. He was excommunicated. Of course from his view, and the view of his family, HE was the victim. They hold to the story that he was sought out and has a gift. Today he lives in hiding. Only his immediate family knows his address. In fact he has separated himself from his birth family all together! Sadly, He has forced the brunette and his children into his cavern with him, living by his strange laws. They are forbidden from conventional medicine, as well as relationships with her sister and parents. His children are filled with hate and envy for their cousins. He pays everything with cash and coupon cards, to keep him anonymous. His children are ashamed of his story, yet too set in the cycle of pride to do anything about it. His children have struggled through their own marred relationships with failed relationships of all kinds. A true tragedy that even Shakespeare couldn't write: The product of pride!

The blonde's family has enjoyed success that can only be attained by divine intervention. Their worthy trust in God has allowed them to ascertain wealth enjoyed by very few. Of course, they share that wealth with open hands. Charitable donations a plenty, children with professional degrees, happy marriages, and bright-eyed grandchildren. Their home's hard earned walls show state championships, awards, accomplishments, and hundred of smiling memories as a family. He has been is leadership positions, teaching and holding to doctrines that Christ taught. They both maintain a close relationship with their honey-sweet parents, children and grandchildren. Paramount is their relationship with God. The community holds them both in highest regard for all that they have accomplished in life. Yet they still humbly return to their knees each night, pleading for God to heal their ailments and weaknesses. God blesses them with his grace for trusting him to make up the difference for what they lack. Over time, they've accomplished more using humility than the brunette's family could ever imagine using their pride.

NEXT GENERATION UP: setting straight what their parents did not

Finally, is a quick explanation of two children who came from homes where their fathers were excommunicated. Again, I speak from the perspective of a personal witness to this.

There was a wonderfully intellectual man with a supportive wife. They had 6 gorgeous children. He studied and worked at universities and companies across the country and had the ideas of the world bombarding him non-stop. He loved his daughters with all his heart. One of his daughters had a run in with officials at Ricks College (Now BYU-Idaho, in Rexburg, a church owned school). He, with pride in his daughter and acceptance of everyone in his profession, wouldn't accept that the officials could possibly have merit. His anger festered so much that he decided to leave the church (there's more to it, but pride is the main thing to focus on here). He went so far as to not allow his daughters to attend seminary, and wouldn't let those turning 8 to be baptized! The mother did her very best to raise her family in the gospel and give her children the very basics, but the conflict in the home over religion left lasting questions and confusions in his daughter's minds.

One of those daughters went off to college and found a humble, hard working, worthy husband (who came from a family with a repentant father who had committed egregious mistakes and made his way back). After a year, they were married. This young husband would get up every day, study scriptures, pray, and go to church solo on Sundays. In the beginning, his wife, the daughter of the apostate father, didn't really see those basic things with much importance. However, over time, his goodness of this penitent father's son began to awaken his wife's spirit. The vacuum that had been created by her father's pride was filled as she humbly dove into full activity in the church. The false teachings she had been brainwashed with were healed by her new understanding and a new eternal perspective. 35 years later, they are the worlds happiest parents and grandparents. She grew into the biggest fish in her pond, but don't tell her that. She lives humbly, having served weekly in the temple for years. He has had a successful career in his field and continues humbly working and serving the Lord. They are currently serving a mission together and weekly report about the successes they see in the lives of those they are teaching. Oh the blessings of humility!

TRUST IN A MERCIFUL GOD

Bottom line: God loves us. He wants to bless us all. We have to ask for it! We are all affected by our parent's actions, yes. But what really matters is how we encounter life and how we play the cards we've been dealt. We all have weaknesses and strengths. If we act as the humble husbands above, those weaknesses become strengths by grace and we can truly accomplish anything! If we look at life through prideful, know-it-all eyes, we'll stay right where we are. Our progression would stop with our pride. Those children born to sinful parents are not "punished" by their parent's prideful actions. The 2nd Article of Faith was written with eternity in mind. 

As Elder Christofferson stated: "Nothing is lost for them in the end".
"Where much is given, much is required." Therefore, If nothing is given, nothing is required! If a child from a gay marriage home dies without baptism, Christ would make up the difference the same way He makes up the difference for children who die before 8. The child didn't choose its fate (the gay parents did), and we're only accountable for our own choices. The church just added a new policy. Do you humbly accept it? If you're questioning, are you trusting God to make up the difference? I hope so! Because, trust me. You don't want to be like that poor prideful apostate old man in a dark cave, abandoned by the adversary.

Here's Elder Christofferson's (who has a gay brother that he loves very much) explanation of the updated policy if you haven't seen it yet: 

If you're having doubts, doubt your doubts. If you're not having doubts, do what you can to understand where those advocating gay marriage are coming from. Be firm and assertive, but respectful of their views and ask for respect for your own. I bear testimony that Christ is the head of the LDS church, the it is led by a true prophet, that the Book of Mormon is a guide to our time, that through humble application of the gospel we can overcome our weaknesses, and that through prayer, we can receive comforting answers to the problems and questions we encounter in life.

Additional Study:
https://clarityforall.wordpress.com/2015/11/06/lets-set-a-few-things-straight/
https://www.lds.org

Choose Your Love, Love your Choice; no matter the result

Recently, I was asked to be one of the men "The Bachelorette" gets to choose from this upcoming spring 2015 season. While I was flattered, I didn't exactly see myself finding love through reality TV and I chose to decline last minute. It has, however, been a cool experience getting to know the casting process over the past 6 months. Their questions made me reflect on how fortunate I am to know what it takes to find love. I've learned through trial and error what works. 

A recent report said that over 70,000 LDS young single adults (ages 24-35) slipped out of church activity in 2014. Many reported they left for feelings of loneliness and depression. I see thousands of frustrated singles of all beliefs in my travels and I've gathered that many don't know how to progress a relationship. Some seem distracted by the plethora of options, careers, and hobbies. Others feel hopeless as the gray hairs creep in or fall out, without caress. A common theme I see is the Fear of making the wrong choice. The following is a formula to help dissipate those Fears using Agency, Faith, and Prayer.

"Choose your Love; Love your Choice." Words that sunk deep into my heart when I heard LDS President Thomas S. Monson say them in the April 2011 Priesthood session. I recommend listening to his advice before proceeding (8:43 to the end he addresses Singles specifically).

As a 20-something LDS guy, who has paid for that first date hundreds of times, had a handful of girlfriends, been engaged once, and even been married, ending in agreement to annul; my experience has allowed me to understand what it takes to get married. Simply put, what it takes is Faith in Choice or Agency, the greatest gift Heavenly Father has given us. In fine, if you're worried about choosing the wrong person, you're focused on the wrong thing. The right choice is to MAKE A CHOICE. The wrong choice is to sit by and let opportunities to love and grow pass you by.

Here is my Guide to Making Marriage Happen:

1. Make a list of people you're interested in. Prayerfully whittle the list down to one.
2. Go to the Lord with a Choice of one you've chosen to date: Humbly ask "Father, I choose this person! I love this Choice. Please help me take this relationship as far as I can. I won't quit until it isn't the best choice if it be Thy will." Pay attention to your feelings and listen for approval.
3. Trust Him that He will stop something before it goes too far if it isn't what is best for you both.
4. Take action! Get the number, ask them out, be creative, have an open heart. Love fully!
5. Don't give up. Unless you get a "No," trust in your agency. If it is to end, make sure it isn't you going back on your choice. Take it as far down the road as you can.

Here's how that formula has blessed my life, or essentially my love-life in a nutshell. It has proven to bring me happiness and many great, healthy friendships and relationships with members of the opposite sex over the years: 

While preparing to finish my mission in Brazil, I was weighing out going to SUU or BYU at the beginning of 2008. I prayed about SUU (where my best dating option at the time was in school) and didn't feel good about it. I then prayed about BYU and got a "Yes" answer. Obviously, returned missionaries are focused on getting married the second they touch down so it was a faithful leap to follow that "Yes" away from the girl. I started classes at BYU and tried to maintain a long distance relationship with that girl of my choice. After a couple of months I went to the temple about her and I certainly got a "Yes" that I could marry her and be happy.

However, SHE chose to end things just weeks after that revelation at the tail end of a wonderful night. I was puzzled! How in the world?! THE LORD SAID YES TO ME! I spent the next few months trying to figure out how to maybe impress her into getting back with me or whatever but she was on a whole different level than I was. She went on to marry a guy at SUU and has achieved a beautiful young family.

Broken hearted, I tried my best to get those butterflies with other girls. It took a while before I felt anything, and I broke some hearts along the way myself. There were certainly great options, and I definitely passed up on some absolute gems. I helped 3 of those gems go on missions, rather than pursuing something serious with them. Almost selfishly, I wanted time to heal, rather than diving in on that "choice" again. I was afraid to be vulnerable.

Then there was the night I met my ex-whatever-we-aren't (annulments are a strange anomaly where there needs to be a word between ex-fiancé and ex-wife/hubby created to define it). Finally I felt butterflies again, but chickened out on getting her number. In fact, it took me TWO YEARS to get up the courage to ask for her number.

During those two years, she had moved away to Arizona and only become more beautiful, which I witnessed over Facebook as my roommates and friends of the time can attest. I continued to date around, kisses and mistakes a plenty. Again I passed on numerous opportunities "waiting for the right person" or "waiting for the right timing." What I now realize is that had I "Chosen" any one of those girls, I would have been just as happy. Let me explain:

2011: President Monson's advice above, "Choose your Love, Love your Choice." I became determined to make a list of "Choices" and to go to the Lord with the name of ONE who I would faithfully pursue as far as it could go. I assembled quite the roster of prospects that year, each of whom is now happily married to another lucky guy! September came, and to my surprise Arizona girl moved back just a few buildings away from my Belmont apartment. I was much more mature and courageous, however I still felt she was out of my league. I certainly inserted her into the top of my list. We played the "Facebook Like" dance and played the "Oh hey" game at social events for the next couple of months.

Then it hit me. Man Up! It's time to "CHOOSE!" I took a good hard look at my options and determined, without even going on a first date with her yet, that I would go to the Lord and ask him to help me make it happen.

"Father, I choose her! I love this choice. Please help me take this relationship as far as I can. I won't quit until it isn't the best choice for us if it be Thy will."

With His approval of my righteous desire, I had confidence that I could "Do all things through Christ, which strengtheneth me." It turns out, she was having similar prayers at the time. She had recently experienced heartbreak of her own and was asking for divine guidance. She was blessed with a vivid dream during a Falltime Sunday nap at her parent's house and saw my face. She woke up, definitively told her parents she was going to find me, and we locked eyes at a dessert party that night. It was amazing how quickly things progressed from there! We both had a certain confidence about us, because we were following God's advice and had Chosen to follow it. I finally manned up and asked her out around Thanksgiving and we dated all of December. I quickly gained parental favor by being there to help her move in the snow (think Ammon and Lamoni). To that point, it was the best first 5 dates of my life, best first kiss of my life; it all seemed so magical!

Just as all couples do, we had our first tests. She had options and things she wanted to do before getting serious and seemed to lose interest. In the meantime, I kept dating around but I was determined to make it work and waited that month out. Enter February, the time for both of us! We both felt it. I was "the best friend [she'd] ever had" (her words). She was all I'd ever wanted. The marriage discussion came soon and I went to the temple, again. Instead of a "Yes" the Lord gave me a "Keep Going" answer. Remember, I had ALREADY made a choice and He had ALREADY signed off on that before my first date with her. I was my Bishop's executive secretary at the time and he guided me to where I needed to be personally to prepare for marriage. My stake president, a longtime friend of her dad, offered his blessing, gave me specific guidance and challenged me to bless that family's life with my faith.

I did just that! Full of excitement, we were engaged, married and sealed just 6 months after our first date. The highest honor of my life was kneeling across the altar and pledging my forever to my best friend. That was a very emotional day! I blubbered like a baby through the entire ceremony. She and the members of her family who attended were probably thinking "This dude is a wreck!" After the ceremony I went into the dressing room, knelt down and felt the most surreal hug as I gave thanks to God for blessing me with my choice. He was proud of me! "You did it!" I heard Him say. It all started with that CHOICE.

Believe it or not, I loved being married! To that point, I had never been happier in my life. There's a certain peace that comes to your mind as you make a home with someone else. The advantage of being sealed in the temple is that you can envision the eternities with your spouse. I was very proud to have a wife and very proud of her work, her job, her family, her interests. For proof, ask me about peonies and designer brands like Kate Spade or Tory Burch. I was extremely motivated in ways that I'd never felt before. I'd say 95% of the time was enjoyable, the other 5% was work. That's just how life is! I echo Elder Scott's sentiments on marriage (click for the full discourse, its worth it!):

"It is so rewarding to be married. Marriage is wonderful. In time you begin to think alike and have the same ideas and impressions. You have times when you are extremely happy, times of testing, and times of trial, but the Lord guides you through all of those growth experiences together."

Like every newlywed couple, she and I had our eye-opening differences. Nothing was irreconcilable but it wasn't long before we each realized we hadn't married into what we had hoped. Our goals were universes apart which numbered our days; the marriage didn't last long. No matter how much I desired to do so and tried, expectations went unfulfilled and her agency led her to want a different life than I could offer her. I would have done anything to "Keep Going" but just like that first girl from when I came home from my mission, I had learned to respect Agency. Abruptly, that cold, dark winter night we agreed to part ways and to be friendly, knowing we would be going back to the same group of mutual single friends as before. I helped her to her car with her things and with tears in our eyes we hugged for the last time, and said our final goodbyes, agreeing that we would work together to get things annulled. After all, she was my best friend! She drove away and strangely enough I felt a weight lift off of my shoulders. I still did my best to hold to my marriage covenant with her until everything was finalized. I had Chosen My Love, and Loved My Choice... all the way to the end of that relationship. Although truly heartbroken, I was noticeably optimistic about it because I understood the power of Choice!

As a former husband (my best definition of "annulee"), I get asked questions all the time: 
"So do you feel like you married the wrong person?"
"Do you hate her?"
"What went wrong?"
"What's the real story?"
"Are the rumors true?" (I've heard everything under the sun about us both, "NO!" They're not!)

The fact of the matter is that I married the person I CHOSE. I made the right choice, TO CHOOSE!
I love that CHOICE and I still cherish the fact that we, together, had the courage to make that jump! To be honest I'll never stop loving that former best friend and hoping the best for her and those around her. A Breakup is not a failure. A Breakup proves that you have Hope and Courage. It proves you know how to be Open, Vulnerable and how to Love someone else. It proves you have the guts to care for someone else no matter the circumstance. It means you've learned Patience and Charity for someone else in their weakness, and you're Humble, Meek, and Willing to Work to perfect your own weaknesses. All those capitalized words above are Beattitudes, not vices.

To paraphrase the late inspirational ESPN anchor Stuart Scott:

"When you die, it doesn't mean you lose... You [win] by how you live, why you live, and in the manner in which you live. So live! Live! Fight like hell!"

I would say the same of Love. When it ends, you have not lost. If your heart aches, you know that the love was real. If you loved fully, made someone else your "why", gave everything you had to make them happy and lived to ensure their comfort, then you can go to bed at night, rest assured, that you gave it everything you had. The last 2 years, as those around me have noticed, I've had no trouble sleeping at night. "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" as the saying goes.

The end of a relationship doesn't have to be ugly. In fact, it can open new doors to greater opportunities! I've been able to maintain close friendships with almost everyone I've ever courted AND their families AND their friends. I believe in Strength of Schedule, like in college football. If my exes are dating great guys, they are making me look great! I hope everyone I've been close with is better for it and that they are able to make positive choices and remain faithful. My cousin divorced one of my best friends and they are still close friends. It is a beautiful thing to see two people who love beyond their pride. It has made things easier for everyone around them. They realize they're best as friends and support each other in their endeavors to remarry, rather than tear each other down and spread falsehoods about each other with the small-minded perspective that if an ex-lover is a failure, they're somehow vindicated; exonerated from blame. But why blame? Absolutely, the relationships and experiences I've gained since my annulment are some of the most cherished of my life. I could never question God's purpose for me being single again. I've been too blessed with too many new friendships and opportunities to "blame."

I have to chuckle when people who have never tried or been through the above complain, judge, spread rumors, or look down on those who have stepped up to the plate and become vulnerable. I feel like Robin William's character Sean McGwire in Good Will Hunting at those times (End it at 3:03, language warning after that).

So with all that explanation, here's the Guide to Making Marriage Happen, again:

1. Make a list of people you're interested in. Prayerfully whittle the list down to one.
2. Go to the Lord with a Choice of one you've chosen to date: Humbly ask "Father, I choose this person! I love this Choice. Please help me take this relationship as far as I can. I won't quit until it isn't the best choice if it be Thy will." Pay attention to your feelings and listen for approval.
3. Trust Him that He will stop something before it goes too far if it isn't what is best for you both.
4. Take action! Get the number, ask them out, be creative, have an open heart. Love fully!
5. Don't give up. Unless you get a "No," trust in your agency. If it is to end, make sure it isn't you going back on your choice. Take it as far down the road as you can.

I promise that this process yields results. Whether it simply ends after your first date (as it most often does), or things end just before your attempts to have kids (like me), or you end up with kids and things end years into the marriage (wow, that must be hard), or of course you've found the Happy Ever After that we all desire; there are blessings to be had along the way if you will simply Choose your Love, and Love your Choice.

Gaining Eternal Momentum

One of my favorite movies is The Dark Knight Rises. In the film there's a key moment where a recuperating Bruce Wayne has to jump across a huge chasm to get back out of a pit to save Gotham. He tries leaping over a chasm a couple of times with a rope attached to his waist, comes up short and hurts himself twice. The rope, a symbol of safety "just in case" he were to come up short, held him back from getting across the chasm. The third time, he ditched the rope and leans on momentum created by his faith and self belief; taking his body forward just enough to make it across. This is a microcosm of our earthly experience. Life is full of these chasms and full of struggles. We attempt to overlook them by setting goals and achieving milestones. We live by them and look forward to them. Sweet 16, graduation, church missions, college, marriage, kids. Whether we're checking off a list, crossing out days, or making resolutions we always start from a beginning. Often we use January 1st, the end of a quarter, or Sundays as a fresh start to these milestones.

One thing we forget with such road signs in our lives is that we came from somewhere. For example, while flying to a tropical island vacation, we forget the importance of our home for those few days when in reality where we're from has more to do with who we really are.

The same goes with our short time here on Earth. We came from somewhere before this life. We made choices that put us where we are here. Those choices continue to gain momentum as we progress through our lives and each of our choices will forever affect our eternity. Yet there's times we get distracted from our eternal roots, forget who we really are and lose sight of what our real potential is. These are the times when we're vulnerable to make decisions that will impede our eternal momentum...

Momentum is the product of Velocity and Mass. Velocity is speed measured in a given direction. Mass is commonly defined as matter or weight. So if we desire to gain momentum, we need to add the right material into our lives as we continually jet in a certain direction.

This life is full of things out there that would impede our momentum. Scientifically speaking, these are things that cause us to lose direction, lose "mass", or slow our growth. Included in the long list of impediments are temptations, pride, those who seek to destroy lives while Satan manipulates their own, trials, misunderstandings, confrontations, lack of support, among many others. The fact of the matter is that if you haven't built enough momentum to withstand these bumps in the road, then they'll slow you down greatly, or perhaps even cause you to stop moving all together.

So what matter do we build our lives out of to withstand these roadblocks? In the Book of Mormon there's a passage that gives clarity, in Helaman 5:12:

"It is upon the rock of our Redeemer, who is Christ, the Son of God, that ye must build your foundation; that when the devil shall send forth his mighty winds, yea, his shafts in the whirlwind, yea, when all his hail and his mighty storm shall beat upon you, it shall have no power over you to drag you down to the gulf of misery and endless wo, because of the rock upon which ye are built, which is a sure foundation, a foundation whereon if men build they cannot fall."

Simply put, there is only one direction and one matter that provides us with that perfect momentum necessary to make it through everything life throws at us. Christ!

The direction to follow was a path established by Christ: His gospel of Faith in God, constant improvement through repentance, covenant making and keeping, following the Spirit as it aides in Enduring to the End. This course helps keep an eternal perspective of where we really came from, who we really are and what potential we really have if we follow the route at His pace as He showed in New Testament and Book of Mormon times. 

The matter is becoming like Christ, increasing our knowledge and faith in Him, serving others continually as He did, supporting worthy causes, family and friends; letting your light shine without shame, guiding others to the momentous path that follows Him, and together amassing greater momentum. We gain this matter by following counsel of inspired leaders, following the guidance of the prophet Thomas S. Monson today. Christ has extended his arm to pull us up.  It's up to us reach up and get through whatever life may throw our way!

I'm grateful today for the simplicity of the true gospel of Jesus Christ. Any variance from it can cause generations of harm, slowing the roll of those who don't follow His clear path and build themselves from His material. I'm glad I have been blessed with a family and friends who understand how important it is to build up the eternal momentum necessary to get across the chasms in this life... And save the world, like Batman!

Find Your Own Journey in the Wilderness

First of all, this isn't to be critical of those who call Provo home, or are flourishing professionally there or matriculated for Spring/Summer terms. I love Provo! Probably too much. I feel like many single LDS people have put into their minds that Utah is the only place they can possibly live if they want to be successful in the dating world. I'm writing to dispel that rumor.

My first semester at BYU we studied the story of Lehi's Journey into the Wilderness. To review, Lehi, a visionary prophet and dreamer, felt prompted to leave behind a lifetime of connections to Jerusalem. He was very wealthy, had very deep roots, and half of his family disagreed with him leaving. Some even called him crazy! However, he felt there was a greater purpose for his family outside of that city. We all know how that turned out. (if you don't, I urge you to read the Book of Mormon and find out).

Now before I continue, it needs to be mentioned that we know there are prophets and good people who STAYED in Jerusalem. They accomplished great things there and found worthy purpose in staying. We also know that Jerusalem continued to flourish in ways and became more worldly in ways. Its also the place where Jesus Himself came 600 years later. Jerusalem was the Holy City, The Choice Land, Zion, the place of Peace. Jerusalem was THE PLACE TO BE! Kind of like many of us see Provo.
However, God saw a greater purpose for Lehi, and his family left. 


Six years ago, this story weighed heavily on my mind before I went out to sell alarms with Vision Security. I knew I needed to leave during that summer following that class. I knew that the Lord had purpose for me elsewhere. Eventually I was led to San Antonio where I was astonished to find some of the best Singles I've met to date. I also met one of my best friends, Mike Scott, who was introduced to the Gospel that summer, then came back to Provo with me that fall, went on a mission, and is one year happily married to his pregnant dream wife, who he met on an airplane; not in Provo.

In succeeding years I've left "The Scene" at times for different opportunities, and met some of my favorite people of different ages. My dreams have become more attainable because of the wide array people I've met. Many, if not most of those people, are not LDS. Some have been, such as one of my most cherished friends Christian Parker, who I met 3 years ago when I left to Tacoma/Seattle for a month before spending the rest of the summer in Provo training BYU's basketball team. That one month in Washington completely altered my future forever! So have the other months I've spent outside of Utah.

Most importantly, I've had missionary experiences. I speak Portuguese. I can communicate pretty well in Spanish. Many of you have multi-lingual talents and have served missions. What in the world can the Lord use those gifts for in Utah? I remember standing in a Best Buy in California once and overhearing a couple who struggled with their English. I recognized the accent and was able to help them out. Obviously they were shocked I know Portuguese and one thing led to another and now they know a little more about the LDS faith. Opportunities like that don't exist in Utah, they do almost EVERYWHERE else. Another experience has been meeting a hero of mine named Victoria. She lives in the suburbs outside of Philly and hires ONLY LDS nannies because years ago, some girl got the guts to leave Utah and nanny and live a higher standard. As Victoria and I have kept in touch, she continues to learn more and more about the church with each succeeding nanny. That first nanny is now married by the way.

SO, what about dating? OBVIOUSLY, there are close to a HALF MILLION single people in Utah, mostly LDS, looking for that special someone. The theory has proven successful for MILLIONS before us who have gone to school in Utah or moved to Utah for their professions. It will continue to yield marriages, no doubt. Yet, I've gathered that most of those relationships aren't by people sitting by the Belmont pool, playing volleyball at King Henry, or spending their weeks getting a tan at Seven Peaks. The successful relationships are forged by two people chasing their dreams, who happen to collide in pursuit of such dreams, and support one another in such quests.

I've learned that dating outside of Utah isn't as non-existent as people say it is. Sure, the numbers are fewer. There's a much lower concentration of LDS singles outside of Utah, duh. BUT... of those LDS Singles outside of Utah, are those pursuing their dreams in a Wilderness. They are forging their own trails and accomplishing great things no matter where they are. I've been impressed by them in my travels. There are recent converts, looking for support. What a HUGE opportunity for love! I know a guy who baptized his wife in California in his 30's after drawing a blank in Provo. I know a guy from Monticello who lived in Belmont and a lady from Orem who met in Dallas, TX, are now happily married and have two beautiful children. My own sister left Utah and married a guy she met IN UTAH, but reunited in Mesa, AZ.

Yes, "The Utah Summer Dream" is here. But, before citing that you're staying in Utah for "greater dating opportunities", I invite you to consider these 2 things:

First, there's more to life than dating and getting married. "Opportunity" presents itself in many ways, even when it doesn't make sense. Lehi was called crazy for leaving the "Land of His Inheritance." He became the Father of the Western Hemisphere's entire population for 2,000 years! The Lord has a purpose for you BEYOND your "inheritance" and Provo. Be faithful enough to ask the Lord what your purpose is. If it is to leave "Zion" take courage and take action. There's always a plane ticket that can get you back to Lake Powell, the Rex Real Estate barbecues and the 4th of July at the Social 7-11. Speaking of Rex Real Estate, their CEO, Utah's most eligible bachelor, just skipped Utah in grander pursuits. Think about it!

Second, your main purpose in life IS to get married. Be presentable. Keep in perspective what marriage is for... ITS FOR FOREVER! Sure, we find each other as eye candy by the pool, but Tinder does the same thing, right? 
Guys, the ladies don't find a guy "eternally attractive" if he's laying by the pool and doing nothing that will provide for his future family or serving the world. I can promise this legion of returned missionaries you say you're waiting on wants more in a guy than bronze muscles and 800 Instagram followers! As my married friend Kellen says: "A girl who chooses who she dates because she knows a guy can provide for her isn't shallow; She's using common sense!"
Gals, the dudes might want a girl with a tan but if she's making less than the sum of her dropout-model lifestyle, apartment and dream car payment; or worse not even working, nor going to school; yet she goes to Vegas or other concerts every other weekend and pools out the rest of the week; We can do the math! You're not providing for yourself and that scares the dickens out of a man and he will run from you! I can't imagine anything more abhorrent. Do something with your life! It'll make you more "eternally attractive" and dating will come to you and it won't be dressed in a bikini or swim trunks. 

Men and Women are that they might have joy; and how great shall be your joy if you shall bring one or many souls unto Christ by laboring all your days! (2 Nephi 2:25 and D&C 18:15,16)
If you're single and in Utah this summer, you better be doing something with your life! If you're not, use your talents, get out and serve the world!

People of 2013

2013 - THE YEAR OF RELATIONSHIPS

"When we understand our relationship to God, we also understand our relationship to one another."

Dallin H Oaks

As I review my 2013, I realize I've been blessed with hundreds of incredible relationships. I worked most of the year as a Relationships Expert at Corporate Alliance. I learned many worthwhile principles I was able to apply to my own relationships. For that reason, I'm going to highlight the people who stood out each month. Learn to cherish every moment and relationship in life and you'll always be happy! Also, I'm including lessons I learned experiences and quotes that struck me and motivated me to be a better person! ENJOY!!!

DECEMBER:

"I never lost faith in the truth or in who I am." - Jameis Winston

No matter what challenges life is throwing at you or those who you love and are suffering with, they'll pass. They always do. I heard some pretty bizarre things about myself all year. I guess it comes with the territory of standing up for values and making some bold moves. I learned that lesson back in high school and got a lot of flack for it, so I wasn't surprised by the storms of 2013. I set out to find the source of all the malarkey and I actually found it with the help of some incredible people. What a relief! There are no coincidences in who you meet. They're put into your life at just the right time to help achieve your righteous desires if you'll pay attention and cherish every stranger you come across. Those who set out to collude, create falsehoods, and set traps are eventually brought to justice and will pay the price for their wickedness. It's called justice, and it always wins!

If you're relying on artificially flavored Kool-Aid to know a fruit's taste but never tried the fruit's juice, you'll never know a fruit's true taste. At times we find our loyalties lie with the Kool-aid simply because we haven't tried the juice. Upon tasting the fruit for yourself, you can tell the difference. So it is with relationships. If you hear something terrible about someone, go to them directly, look them in the eyes, and ask them. "Ye shall know them by their fruits!"

"Who believes an Orange is Black? Only someone who has never seen an Orange!" - Taylor Church

Jimmy Rex
Also one of my heroes. A fantastic speaker, Jimmy has build quite the network of social influence through his business as well as turning service opportunities into a great time. Every year he throws a charity auction and raises thousands of dollars for Sub 4 Santa, then opens his office doors for volunteers to wrap and deliver presents. Its quite the ordeal and I imagine it takes more time than anyone realizes. This year Jimmy and I grew closer from a distance. He was the first to relay to me some "concerns" he had heard about and informed me about them. His concerns were based on a misunderstanding and no fault of his own, nor the person who had told him's fault (things taken out of context). Yet, at the time I was offended that he would even entertain the ideas he had heard, but then over time, by serving each other "Just Because" we came closer. We were able to hear the quiet truths through the noise and see each other for who the other really is. He then went out of his way to let me know how he felt which isn't easy to do. That December night I felt a weight off my shoulders as I knew one more great friendship was solidified.

Sean Peterson
He came into the world a fighter, odds against him. He continues to succeed at everything he puts his mind to. Sean and I have come closer than ever through working on business ideas as well as rolling in the same social scene for the first time in our lives. Often he gets called "the older brother" because of his solid, consistent demeanor and maturity. I can't help but agree when people tell me that. He has learned and shared many secrets to the abundant life, such as "The Secret". He has put his mind to incredible goals and he's already crossing many off the list. His design skills are going to be known worldwide some day, I don't doubt it. He loves that stuff. We relate on the most important subjects, but we have such different interests, yet, we support eachother's dreams incessantly. 2013 brought my family closer, and it wed out the tares from among us. I appreciate Sean's unwavering support and sticktoitiveness. There's no shortage of favors he's done for me without expecting anything in return. "Love ya bud"

Dave Jackson
We actually connected very unconventionally. Last year we played flag football against eachother and I sensed a goodness about him, just by the way he carries himself. Later in the year, I lived with another Dave Jackson, and accidentally added this Dave on Facebook, then saw him around more often. Each time we passed, without knowing anything about him, I could sense his goodness. Finally in December, I had to opportunity to start what I hope to be a lifelong friendship as he and I worked on a little project. I think we both benefitted, but I feel like I gained more because Dave is a friend you want to have: loyal, understanding, open, and he stands for truth above all. Those consistent habits have given him a character that all can feel in his countenance. Grateful for his solid example.

Jessica Maughan
I met Jessica years ago when she was a Cougarette, I was with BYU's Basketball team, and at least once a week we would bump into eachother. She was dating a friend of mine at the time and decided to serve a mission, a move that will always be respected and sustained by me to any lady who takes it on. 2 years ago, when she came home from her mission, we met at a little dance and we went to dinner. That planted the seeds to a wonderful friendship. From dinners, to tennis, to crashing family parties, Disneyland, hiking the Y, long gospel conversations, service projects, ect, we share so many interests. Our roadtrip to Disneyland on a whim in December was absolutely one of the highlights of 2013! She brought back the magic! Such a happy person who's only option is to do good, she doesn't even consider the bad in life. I dare say Jessica is the purest person I know, and I truly mean that. Words can't describe my gratitude for her allowing me in her life and home.

John Curtis
The Mayor of Provo had an incredible 2013, and I feel like its worth noting. As members of Corporate Alliance, I gained the confidence to speak with him. He brought Provo Google Fiber, facilitated flights to San Fran and LA from Provo, and my personal favorite, HE SOLVED THE TOWING PROBLEM!!! The more I learn about this man, the more I realize what a timely leader he has been for Provo. I hope he continues his political career beyond Provo.

NOVEMBER:

Success has much to do with choosing who to surround yourself by:
Surround yourself with 4 losers
and become the 5th.
Surround yourself with 1 winner
and become the next.

"Respect yourself. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Do not dwell on unkind things others may say about you. Polish and refine whatever talents the Lord has given you. Go forward in life with a twinkle in your eye and a smile on your face, but with great and strong purpose in your heart." - Gordon B. Hinckley

Sonny and Folola Parker family:

There are some people you meet that change you from the minute you meet them. That's how it was for me when I met my friend Christian Parker's parents. Sonny is a fighter! A former NBA player and Texas A&M legend, its not his basketball pedigree that makes him a great man. Its his fatherhood to the city of Chicago and to his kids! He runs the Sonny Parker Foundation which benefits the youth of Chicago and he has lived a life of service to those around him. He and his fabulous wife allowed Christian and some of my best friends to stay over for some basketball games in Chicago. The respect the local and basketball communities have for this family was eye-opening to me. When Rahm Emanuel, mayor of Chicago, goes out of his way to give you a hug at your son's basketball game, you know you're a big deal! YET, they are so humble! Lola is such a loving caring person, and exceptional networker and mother. Her vision of what life is about is motivating to me. Its all about God's work to her. All else follows in importance. Its hard not to walk away from a weekend with the Parkers without a sincere love for each of them, and now that I know where Christian comes from, I get why he is such a knowledgable guy beyond his years. The trip was THE top highlight of the year for me.


Nicole Peterson:
Rarely do Coco and I get to spend to ton of time together on the road. On our way home from Phoenix for Thanksgiving, I was able to cherish some time with her. Coco conquered a lot in 2013, from employment promotions to the loss of a close friend, to helping her best friend through a pregnancy. Her year was extremely selfless. She's one of those people who never seek out their own honor, but love to make others feel good about themselves. Everyone who meets her, loves her. Her fierce loyalty never goes unnoticed.

Rachel Peterson:
Two years in a row, I've been able to spend Thanksgiving with Rachel and her young family. She is so incessantly positive! This year she hosted us for Thanksgiving Dinner in her home and I was able to see a side of her I rarely have seen in our 27 years together as siblings. I love seeing her as a mom. She was made for it. She is so loving and selfless. She has been there for me 100% of the time when I need it, always. Grateful for her leading example in my family.

Brady Wright
There are people you meet that you know you were friends with before this life. Brady is one of those. From the minute we met, we related on like every level. Employed by the same parent company and making a living on business relationships, we get eachother! I had the privilege of chatting with Brady at Corporate Alliance's Innovation Reunion Tour in Park City during November. Learning about someone's background and history gives you a greater perspective and respect for who they are. Brady looks everyone he meets eye to eye and loves them for who they really are, because he senses their goodness.

Kayla Cook
Kayla must be the most mature person for her age that I know. She has charisma and a solid positivity that has gotten her through life. She reminds me of my sister Rachel in ways. She's the oldest, and takes on the challenges of life with a smile. If you ever get the chance to get to know Kayla, do it! She comes from an entrepreneurial background, she has a great work ethic, lives what she preaches and doesn't allow her successes lead to pride. Her maturity will do her well as she goes through fulfilling her dreams in life. Glad to have her as a friend.

OCTOBER:

When stormy times happen, anchor yourself with milestones and goals that validate you and your character. 
When the sun breaks through, your foundation will have become stronger than before.
Those momentous tender mercies increase our capabilities, purpose, and faith.

General Conference is always just what the doctor ordered. Favorite quotes:

"From the pillow wet with tears we shall be lifted heavenward by that precious promise, "I will not fail thee nor forsake thee." "Shall I falter Or shall I finish?"- President Thomas S. Monson

"Our destiny is not determined by the number of times we stumble; but by the number of times we get back up, dust ourselves off and move forward." Deiter F. Uchtdorf

"Satan's desire is to alter revealed truth and deceive. " - L. Tom Perry

"The vicissitudes of life help us fashion an eternal relationship with God and engrave his image in our countenance." - T. Dyches

Michelle Davis:
To reiterate, every person comes into your life for a reason. I first saw Michelle at a Root Beer Halloween party for Luke's (see below) birthday. Obviously, she's gorgeous. Quickly, though, I began to learn there's a whole lot more under that pretty skin. She has conquered life and has so much life experience for her young age. Her laugh is contagious and you can't help but smile and have a good time when you're around her. She has some amazing talents! The Lord uses her often to accomplish his purposes when people misunderstand each other. A born leader, pacifist, and mediator. I'm extremely grateful for her timely friendship in my life. I can't say enough about her loyalty and sensitivity.

Luke Salisbury: 
Individuality! In life you meet people who create their own trail to success without caring how the rest of the world does it. Luke is king at that! He's loved by all who get to know him, he lives his dreams, travels the world, is headed to Sochi, works hard... just a great human being. Lucky to have met Luke.

Alex Hone:
In March I wrote a blog post that was felt by many, including Alex. It was worth the effort if only for the friendship that has been borne with Alex. He's a business man from Ogden, and lives to serve the Lord. He has a foundation that takes him to Fiji yearly to serve the people there, but you'd never know it. He doesn't want the credit. His family business depends on his young leadership skill for success, and business is booming! On top of everything, he's my Jazz game teammate. The more I get to know him, the more I'm convinced he's going to be among the most successful people the state of Utah ever sees.


SEPTEMBER:

When the Root is Deep----- There is no Reason to Fear the Wind - 
To the haters, the liars, the feeble, the fakes, the quitters... your diabolical shafts in the whirlwind are massless, baseless, and show your heartlessness. You've noticed nothing gets me down? I'm not scared of you, but you fear my success. My roots are DEEP. Your words...? Ha... they're just wind lifting my wings.

"When you're all alone and your back's against the wall and its all on you; that's when your best self comes out!" - Justin Englebright

Justin Englebright
A lifelong hero asked to go to lunch in September. Justin build an absolute dynasty in the Highland/Alpine area for State Farm. His successes led State Farm to begging him to take on a leadership role. All year we had plenty of dialogue with his unwavering support. He later invited me to his home for dinner with his wonderful family. He is so blessed by his strict obedience to the gospel they believe in and live faithfully. He is the definition of how a priesthood leader should live their lives. His wife is the sweetest lady in the world and such a great inspiration for good. 

Thomas Wright
I learned more from Bishop Wright as his Executive Secretary than any other Bishop I've ever had. His support last year was unsurpassed by anyone. Some of the best memories, though, were moments in his home or up in the hills talking about life. I wouldn't be who I am without his friendship and love. Glad I get to see him more often now, and I'll cherish every moment he's around to gain from his example of how to live life.

Si'i Mafi
I've had many roommates over the years from different cultures but none have been like Si'i. I've learned so much about the good people of Hawaii and Tonga. They live life based on principles and they don't shake. I love that about him. He works hard and knows where he is from, yet he's not afraid to take on new challenges. That said, he knows exactly what he wants out of life and he is on his way to getting it. Love this big hearted guy, and I'm glad he's teaching me how to fight and box. Quite a few years overdue.

Josh Larson
Its safe to say I live with a bunch of superstars. Josh might be the greatest of all of them. A vet, entrepreneur and writer for the LDS Church's magazine "The Ensign", Josh and I have built a great friendship. I love our talks about gospel and life topics. His example makes me better and the way he just goes through life doing what he's supposed to do inspires me. Grateful the Lord put me in the same condo to meet this giant.


AUGUST:

“The liar's punishment is, not in the least that he is not believed, but that he cannot believe anyone else.” #trust  ― George Bernard Shaw

Some confuse effort with difficulty. You'll know them by the way they pull the victim card every day of their lives. Don't be that; rather push through the "hard times" and you'll find an enjoyable life.

When a dog poops inside does it hide in shame from its master or does it show off its work excitedly?
By the same token: When someone you've wronged walks into the room and you shrink, hide your face, and avoid eye contact; you've proven a guilty conscience to be correct, proven a low level of character, a shaky self-esteem, and your words lose all credibility, especially in regard to he whom was wronged.
You can love the dog, just don't trust the poop.

Minor details can make a huge difference. A field of grass is just a field of grass, but organize it with lines and it becomes something magical!

Adam Thomas:

Ever since we were roommates years ago Adam and I have been friends. He just loves people. All who know him well know him as someone who would truly do anything for his friends. He has created a successful life for himself by building lasting friendships with all those around him. A true example to me of unconditional love, I'm grateful for his receptivity. He will always be a friend to me, no matter what happens.






Jace Crawford: 
Jace and I have been friends since birth (literally born in the same hospital bed only 6 days apart). We've lived together many times and I've seen him develop as a human our entire lives. He had a dream to go to grad school and he made it happen. He didn't let anything get in the way of that, including me! I'm going to miss him when he moves away but we'll always be in touch. We always pick up where we leave off. 

Jeremy Lebaron:
A few years ago, a distant friend was down and out. I invited him to live with me for free for a month until he got his feet under him. He soon moved in permanently! Then life sent him across the country to work for Microsoft and he eventually made his way back to Utah. A second time we lived under the same roof, this time with an even greater respect for each other. He's probably the longest winded friend I have, but seeing what he has made out of his life inspires me. Where much is given much is required and he is right on pace in my mind. 

JULY:

"I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends" - Abe Lincoln

If you're in the business of burning bridges, you're in for a rude awakening when you need to cross life's crevasses. Instead, if someone offends you, try to find a way to serve them. The results will amaze you! During July I gained a closer relationship with an apostle and tickets to Stadium of Fire through people 

Jordan Moss:
I had to pleasure of building a friendship with a spiritual giant, beginning on Tinder of all things. It was worth it just for the chance to meet Jordan. We have so much we relate to, but the greatest thing is her commitment to building a God-fearing home. I love the fight that she shows in the battles of life she faces. Long drives and Spotify jam sessions highlight a wonderful friendship that was forged. She is an incredible woman!

L. Tom Perry (and Co):
Rarely do people get a personal experience with an apostle. I got that in my mission and gained a true testimony of the Twelve Apostles of Christ's living church today. That was strengthened in June. I have family connections to L. Tom Perry that proved valuable as I followed his guidance. The truth always comes out and you can find it when you are as transparent as possible. There are many people who you never know you'll need to draw on for strength when you meet them, but they always rise to the surface if you treat every single one of your relationships with respect. When you play games with family, or hold grudges against people for whatever reason, you paint yourself into a corner and cannot win at life, while the rest of the world is enjoying the rest of the mansion. My experiences in July taught me how to be a wise painter.

JUNE:

If you're not making someone else's life better, then you're wasting your time.

Its not prideful to expect blessings you've earned through obedience, its the law. If you're humble enough to obey, then you merit the things you've earned. In time and after a couple of proving bumps in the road, the blessings always come.

Chris O'Neill:
Relationship arrogance. I was guilty of it when I first met Chris years ago. He and I are so much alike in the way we compete on the basketball court and football field that he was actually on the short list of people I disliked. To be honest I was intimidated and didn't like him because of my own insecurity. When I came back to Provo with an open mind, he was one of the first to befriend me. He invited me to play in the Spokane Hoopfest 3 on 3 in June. That car ride is one of my treasured moments of the year. I learned about a great man, who hasn't had it easy, but he has made an incredible life for himself. The more I get to know him, the more I realize that I love this cat!

Patton Pettijohn: 

With a name like that, he has to live up to a superhero-like status. Patton and I have come closer than ever this year as we've tried to capitalize commonalities we have. Admittedly, we haven't always seen eye to eye. However, deep discussions have revealed he is more of a brother to me than I thought years ago when I met him. That puts the fault on me for assuming the worst. He's as good of a guy as I've met and has stood up for me in times when I didn't know he had my back. One of those guys I truly would want in my foxhole, he's crafty, clever, and self dependent. I look forward to numerous activities in the future with Provo's best bachelor.

Thomas Saunders:
Loyal integrity. Those are the 2 words that describe Thomas best. He has a good sense of what is right and what is wrong and does what's right because its right. Hard to find someone who is so good just on the principle of doing good. Incredibly responsible and dedicated, his drive gets him what he wants, even if it means running through a brick wall. Regardless of times I've wronged him, he has stood firm as my friend and I cherish that more than I let him realize. 


Weston Gleave:
Another one of those friends who always has your back no matter the down and distance. Now living together for the third time, he has been there for the biggest events in my life. A hard worker and incessantly happy human, I'm grateful to call Weston a friend. I've seen the way he gives, and gives, and gives, and gives, while expecting nothing in return. The interesting thing is to watch how much he receives by giving. Talented in many ways, Weston works hard to provide for his comfortable lifestyle. Very much a family person, he cares so much for his brothers and sisters and it shows in the way he talks with them. He's one of the easiest people to get along with I've ever met, yet he doesn't settle for mediocrity. He'll go far.

MAY:

"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." - Dale Carnegie

I think May was the best month of the year. On a complete whim, 45 strangers organized a trip to Lake Powell where we became friends for life. Those relationships will last forever. Every one of Team Powell should be listed here but that would take forever. Supportive friends continued to pour in. I saw miracles happen and cities of influence grow. Mentally, I was able to rid myself of dragons of the past and jet forward 90 miles an hour on a Jetski with some of the best friends in the world.

Making difficult choices is what life is all about, so we shouldn't be afraid to act.
In life we hope for happiness, but we have to take a leap of faith to get it. That's what walking on water is. If you sink, God will be there to carry you back to the boat. If you walk, you made the right choice.
So if a choice has caused you to sink in the past, its probably not your best path to take or repeat... but if you've stayed steady and faithful above the water, you should keep walking... and enjoy that experience to its fullest!


Christie Cerenzie: 
Co-Founder of the Provo Adventure Club, she an incredible person and such an amazing friend. No matter what is going on in her life, she sets out to serve others and puts her own problems behind her. I'd say she's a female Walt Disney in ways. Her adventurous spirit has led her across the globe looking for opportunities to help. Fun-loving, loyal, and always inclusive no matter the circumstance, our friendship during the summer months is one I'll always look back on with smiles and gratitude. I look forward to seeing her continue to brighten the lives of those around her. 

Zander Jensen:
One of the most infectious personalities I've ever met. Most are initially intimidated when they meet Zander, as was I 4 years ago, because they realize they just can't compete with the presence he commands. Fearlessly himself, he is able to befriend anyone because he is truly unbiased. As one who has conquered his own set of challenges, his open and creative mind allows him to embrace anyone who will allow themselves to feel his warm heart. Rare are his enemies regardless of opinion. All of the above takes a special human being and certainly there's only one Zander, aka Thor. He has been there for me this entire year and I can't thank him enough for it. 

Zack Oates:
Separated at birth, he is my older twin brother I never had. The kind of guy who will serve anyone and wrap his arms around anyone, he has an innate sense of people's needs and he sets out to serve them, often anonymously. His faith drives his goodness, and what you see isn't too good to be true; he's REALLY that good of a human being. Hot tub club, Lake Powell, and hundreds of other memories will make 2013 unforgettable.

Brian Cameron:
I never would have met Brian had I not come back to Provo. My life would have been missing a great friend and one of the greatest examples of a man that I've ever known. Brian, a fellow serial-entrepreneur, played basketball at SUU, graduated with his Masters in Business Management and tried to hire me to help him build his company B&C Entertainment. This guy is a creative genius, a spiritual giant, and he'll keep you laughing all day. Fun, fun friend, and I'm grateful our paths have crossed in April as we planned Team Powell and have recrossed as fellow VP's in taking XOJO across Earth.

TJ Nelson:

I met Tarl knocking doors 3 and a half years ago. That was before he was SUU's student body president and one of the most sought after marketers to ever graduate from SUU. He's got a great business mind and I look forward to working with him in the future as our ideas take over the world!

Kinley and Bridget Peterson:
The best parents in the world! In May my mom and dad celebrated year 32 of their marriage. I'm going to go out on a whim and say that is no easy task! On top of that, they opened yet another business, a Carls Jr, in Salina, UT. This is a team effort! To add to the whole shebang, my parents were called to serve a mission for the LDS Church in the Anti-Addiction Program and help guide those stuggling with addiction on their road to recovery. I cannot imagine 2 people I'd rather call Mom and Dad than these two. I'm so grateful to them for their consistent examples of service to the Lord and those around them. As Boyd K. Packer says: "There are few things more powerful than the faithful prayers of a righteous mother." I'm a grateful recipient of those powerful prayers to the Lord.



APRIL:

"Every opportunity has its root in a relationship" - Jeff Rust

In every person you meet there is a blessing to be earned or a lesson to be learned. If you don't value each person you cross paths with, you're throwing away opportunities to succeed. In April I flew to Hawaii! Balm for the human soul. That was the highlight of April and the awesome ability to within 24 hours see my mission president in Salt Lake, drive to Vegas, hop on a plane, listen to prophets speak, land in paradise to be picked up by one of the best friends in the world and go straight to the beach to listen to more General Conference is a testament to what a wonderful world we live in. I almost stayed out there! I also considered moving home to Annabella for a while with my parents to clear my head and simplify my life. Luckily I had a friend back home who talked some sense into me and gave me the perfect opportunity of working under his supervision at Corporate Alliance, truly a life altering experience.

Brian Varley:
The month did begin on a somber note. My cousin Brian Varley died early on in the month. Brian was one of my favorite people to talk to because of his contagious laugh. I had the honor of being one of his pall bearers. Fun memories flooded my mind as he was remembered. I don't believe Brian had any enemies. I can't imagine anyone disliking someone so kind and loving as him. His example lives on through those he affected in his short 26 years. Love you Brian!!!

Elder Victor Asconavieta & family:
My ultra inspired mission president and currently an Area Seventy in Brazil for the LDS Church. Every April, he visits Utah and meets up with his missionaries. He's taught many lessons over the years but none has affected me like the advice to marry into a family with a priesthood leader. I'll continue to hold out for that. A true friend and hero to me, he looks deep into the eyes of those he knows as well, as well as strangers, and sees them as God sees them, with infinite potential. His wife is an inspiration to me and the perfect example of what a beautiful wife can be inside and out. Both incredible teachers, leaders, and friends. "Expect miracles!"

Jeff and Lakota Sorensen:
Like a brother. Jeff allowed me to live with him for a week in Hawaii while I honestly explored job options out there. We went spear fishing, snorkeling, knocking, saw the daily sunsets, watched General Conference (on the beach...) resumed our workout schedule we used to do (only this time on the beach). Jeff is another one of friends who time, distance and events don't play into the friendship. He loves everyone and his loving ways are being well received in Hawaii, where he's killing it selling solar. Grateful for a friend who refuses to be mediocre or let those around him fail.

Chad Ahearn:
One of the most inspired teachers I've ever had! When I came back to Provo, I found refuge by going to Institute, where Chad gifted all in attendance with his teaching abilities. A mega successful individual, hard worker, and someone I can relate to on many levels, I really look up to this guy. Sadly, he is a Mercedes fan and gets stuck in the snow without Audi Quattro technology but he doesn't let his one weakness get in the way of conquering the world. I appreciate his closeness to the spirit in those times as he followed promptings and taught with power that touched my heart. He's a hero of mine.

Logan Wilkes:
I received a random phone call from an old friend one day while sitting in my car. It was from Logan, President of Corporate Alliance of Utah Valley. He essentially offered me a job as a relationships consultant right over the phone. His call was very timely. Over the next few months I was given the opportunity to learn from some of the best relationship makers on Earth. The principles taught at Corporate Alliance work. Learn, Serve, Grow. Logan gave me the chance to focus on other people's needs and taught me how to sell on a relationship basis. For the next 7 months I gained timeless friendships and a million experiences I'll never forget, rubbing shoulders with some of the best business minds in the state. Logan, the same friend who gave me cuff links 4 years ago at church and told me to keep them, continues to find subtle ways to serve others without expecting things in return, but Just Because. I'm so grateful for this old friendship forged years ago. He's moving onto bigger things now and I wish him the best of luck!

Mike Scott:
Fate had it that Mike and I landed in San Antonio as strangers 5 years ago. I was a recently returned missionary, and he was a lost kid looking for God. He found it there and I've watched him grow into the man God has meant for him to be ever since. In April I was honored to watch his marriage and sealing in the ever-so-meaningful Draper Temple. 

MARCH:

"And moreover, I would desire that ye should consider on the blessed and happy state of those that keep the commandments of God. For behold, they are blessed in all things, both temporal and spiritual; and if they hold out faithful to the end they are received into heaven, that thereby they may dwell with God in a state of never-ending happiness. O remember, remember that these things are true; for the Lord God hath spoken it." - Mosiah 2:41

Often we get answers to our prayers after a trial of our faith. When we dive in by trusting the Lord with our whole hearts, we're blessed immensely, even if we get the answer we didn't expect or want some time later. I'm grateful today for the simplicity of the true gospel of Jesus Christ. Any variance from it can cause generations of harm, and I'm glad I have been blessed with a family and friends who understand my commitment to building God's kingdom on Earth; which can't be accomplished alone. March was memorable in the way I had to accept change. Changed cities, apartments, roommates, and added an incredible amount of friends while strengthening old relationships. I saw support from a million angles, I should say angels as well. I felt spiritually held up on a level I have never felt before. I felt inspired to conquer the world. I felt as if a runner who had been running for a year with ankle weights on, with weights finally removed. Strangely joyous, my perspective of the sky was no more inhibited by a pavilion of uncertainty overhead. Diving into pools like institute, attending the temple and hopping back into the boat we call Provo, I was able to immediately forge strong relationships with loving, open hearts, regardless of the whirlwinds that swirled about. This couldn't have happened without the help of the great people listed below!

Jared Bingham:
Jared and I have been friends for 5 years through thick and thin! We've been roommates 4 times, probably more. When I suddenly sold my apartment, he was there for me to let me share his little bedroom for a month while I figured things out. Our friendship is one of those that doesn't matter how frequently we run into each other, we always pick up right where we left off. I'm proud to see his steady progression through life (school, work, etc) and his example of goalsetting and creative fun. His family has wrapped their arms around me numerous times over the years and made me feel like one of them. Whether it be pulling a sled behind my car in the snow or just being a friend to go to church with, Jared is truly a friend for life.

Ben Rittmanic:
This guy is one of the most honest and sincere men I've ever met. We met a few years ago when we were neighbors at Belmont, but in March and throughout the rest of the year, we've built lasting friendship. He was there for me March 1st when I had an extra ticket to Secondhand Serenade of all things, and helped me move out of my apartment. From that point, tooltime at the gym and pool, deep talks, girl drama to and from Provo to Lake Powell and beyond. My favorite memory of Ben is when we were in Lake Powell in May. A girl from another camp hit her head wakeboarding and we participated in a blessing to calm her ailments. That worthy Ben is who I'll always remember. He has such an innate sense of goodness in him and I can't thank God enough for allowing me another chance at meeting this buff dude for his real strengths.

Kent Tuttle:
Aka, the Greek god. We've always joked around about him being perfect, but this year his understanding friendship, trust and example have truly lifted me up in hard times. We see eye to eye on so much, so a respected friendship between us is just natural. As great as he is, he always looks up to find people who will motivate him to do his best. There's a sense of humility in trying to emulate your heroes that he possesses. This gifted individual understands better than most that where much is given, much is required. I appreciate him reaching out and having the manly sensitivity to see things as they really are in life. He's quite the blogger too: KentTuttle.com.

Yvonne Shaver and Family:
Growing up, Yvonne was like a second mom to me. Her kids are considered siblings and they're all doing exactly what they should be at this stage in life. She has been there for me numerous times, and I love the way expects so much out of those she loves. In early March, she reached out to me with unlimited love and understanding. We've had lots of marathon talks over the years but the ones we've had this year have been extra precious to me. Her son Morgan (lifelong friend) gave me the greatest honor I can imagine by asking me to participate in the blessing of his son later on in the year. Eternal friendships prove unshakable through thick and thin.

Christian Parker:

This dude... Truly my brother from before this life, continues to be now as my roommate and will forever be a great comrade. My temple buddy throughout the year, we've grown closer as we've tried to push each other to greatness as the year has gone by. He's a trusted friend who trusts my abilities and makes me want to be my best. Grateful our lives recrossed paths again in March.



Taylor Church:

Friend at first sight 13 years ago, my guy through thick and thin. Tay could be on a my weekly MVP list. Its almost token that I throw him on here because he deserves to be on a more important list than this, but here is your real estate on my site man. Check out his blog at www.billymoney.com for some sweet reads. The kid reads more than anyone, is a human dictionary, and is always available to give you just the advice you need. You know when you're stressed, up all night working on a project and you just need someone to grab a burrito with you? How about when you're in the dumps about a girl and you need a good laugh? Or how about when you're itching for a trip across the USA and need a co-pilot? Taylor is a friend fit for every single occasion. Going on a decade and a half of terrestrial friendship, but many experiences in the eternities before that no doubt, Taylor knows me inside and out. He puts up with me and keeps on keeping on. Love Taylor. 

FEBRUARY:

“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind.” - C.S. Lewis
"Should you find yourself on a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks." - Warren Buffett

One life is all we have and we live it as we believe in living it. To sacrifice what you are and to live without belief, that is a fate more terrible than dying!
It's impossible to push an unwilling someone up a latter. No matter how hard you try, it just doesn't work. If they won't ignore their comfort zone on the ground, or ignore their fear of heights and stretch their arms and take the steps, then they'll just stay right where they are, no matter how hard they're pushed, missing out on the better view. Its best to just leave them be with the chickens on the ground so you can enjoy your climb with the eagles. February was... eventful! Midway through the month, two dear friends filled me in on some important information that I suspected and changed my life. To those 2 men I'll always be grateful. I have reason to believe that their selflessness in telling truths I needed to hear got them in loads of trouble and that they're still paying the price for it. They obviously have to deny our conversation ever happened. Yet, I know their true desires and I'll always appreciate them looking out for me. Even though I don't have as much contact with a couple of of the People of February 2013 anymore, all of them will be on my street in heaven. Sometimes its necessary to pause friendships for a greater purpose in the future. A hard lesson to realize, but a good one to learn!

Jon Parrish:
Jon co-founded Citygro and involved me early on when he opened up the Utah County market a few years ago. When he contacted me about the challenge of building a national sales force I was super excited. We had a couple business trips, dinners and conversations that really strengthened me and made me better. He has the cutest young family and a work ethic that can't be compared to anyone I've ever met. He's a very young religious leader and will continue to affect the community and people he leads in a positive way.

Justin Prince:
Justin is a hero to me. Early in the year we had marathon phone calls, played basketball at 7AM on Saturdays and afterwards we would discuss business ideas. He had me critique videos and content he had on his website iamjustinprince.com. He is quite the network marketer, and business relationships creator. This year he launched Modere on a unique social retail multi-level (network marketing) platform of his own genius. His example of love for his children goes unsurpassed. It drives each decision in his life. I envy his stick-to-it-ive-ness. Our conversations while doing service and hour long pump-me-up phone calls with him will always be some of my fondest memories.

Jared Dowell:
A former neighbor, ward-member, and fellow south Utahn, I can probably empathize with him more than most that he treats. I appreciate this great man's example. He is my chiropractor (Accident and Chiropractic Treatment in Provo) and treated me for free numerous times out of the goodness of his heart. A loving father to a couple adorable kids and husband to the sweetest wife, they have a special bond that has endured some tidal waves of their own. His openness to sharing his own feelings about enduring those challenges is something that I'll cherish for a long time. His transparency to me in moments of tumult revealed the best of him. As a member of the same ward, we found ourselves seeking service opportunities and helping eachother selflessly at times. I'll always love Dr. Dowell.

Kellen Madsen:

In high school Kellen and I were tennis doubles partners, football and basketball teammates, and went through some political struggles side by side when our parents got partial blame for a coach getting fired. Really though, we and our families had nothing to do with it! However, that experience of being allegedly guilty taught me alot about being head strong. I'm grateful I had Kellen as a friend then. He saw right through my 2012 Walk on Water, waved every red flag he could, yet still humbly subjected himself to culpabilities he never deserved.Eric Kramer:

My Family:
Surprise surprise! My family hit the ball of the park in February! Their support in moments of transition and earth shattering findings was just what I needed.



JANUARY:

During January I found myself slaving away in San Antonio on a project my friend had asked me to help out on. The opportunity to leave Utah and go make enough money to pay for what I forsaw as an expensive year ahead (I had just signed on 2 cars in December, had the nicest apartments Utah Valley offers, and wanted to put money towards a house). Although the money was great, the true treasures were in the people and accompanying experiences I had in what is one of my favorite cities! 

Jordan and Mandy Potter:
Mandy has always been one of my favorite people. We grew up in the same ward, her dad was my bishop, and I've always looked up to her for simply being a member of the Farmer and King families. To top it off, her husband, a guy I've loved since the day I met him bowling almost 6 years ago, is one of the best husbands / dads I could ever look to as an example.
When they found out I was working in South Texas for a month, they opened their doors wide open for me to stay. I enjoyed the peace I felt in their home daily, the awesome dinners I would come home to, and of course their 2 bundle of joy boys that were SO intrigued that I would drink "chalky milk", AKA protein shakes. Jordan allowed me to play on the ward basketball team as well, such a fun experience!
I learned from their example on how to build a happy home, based on gospel principles. They gave me a safe haven. I'll forever be grateful!

The San Antonio Assistants Elder Dan Thornley and Elder Jon McMurray:
While in San Antonio, my nights were pretty open and for those who know me well, I was in quite the "committed relationship" so going out on the town wasn't an option. I called the San Antonio Mission office and volunteered my nights to bearing testimony of the gospel I love so much! The Assistants put me right to work, and let me come along for the ride as much as possible. Gosh, I miss those San Antonio nights with those stellar men.

Laura Ketterman:
One woman they were teaching was Laura Ketterman. She was passing through her own ups and downs having lost her mother, and watching her eyes light up as she accepted the gospel and saw the hope of God's Plan of Salvation and committed to her life to Christ made me forget about my own problems and lightened every day. She is such a stellar example to me: loving, warm-hearted, hilarious, a great cook, and just so humble and happy, despite all the talent in the world. She works as a lawyer in Texas but we have kept in touch as she has family nearby, also fabulous people!

My Family:
I should also note that my family came up big in January! They spoiled the noogins out of the pretty face back home I was working to afford, and gave me daily motivations and support. I'll forever be grateful for January 2013.

DRAFTS

Additional Quotes from the Year

Alma 27:16-18 - Friendship
16 And it came to pass that as Ammon was going forth into the land, that he and his brethren met Alma, over in the place of which has been spoken; and behold, this was a joyful meeting.
17 Now the joy of Ammon was so great even that he was full; yea, he was swallowed up in the joy of his God, even to the exhausting of his strength; and he fell again to the earth.
18 Now was not this exceeding joy? Behold, this is joy which none receiveth save it be the truly penitent and humble seeker of happiness.

Minor details can make a huge difference. A field of grass is just a field of grass, but organize it with lines and it becomes something magical!

No matter the trial, there is something each day to embrace, cherish, and bring gratitude and joy if only we will see it. - Deiter F Uchdorf

You get what you commit to, based on your level of commitment in it. Commit 100% and you'll get all of what that thing can potentially give back to you! The key is committing to something fruitful #roomiechat - Michael McConkie


I believe in Christ, so come what may

"Its not about what happens to you, its about what you do with what happens to you that matters!" My favorite motivational speaker, Dan Clark


It's impossible to push an unwilling someone up a latter. No matter how hard you try, it just doesn't work. If they won't ignore their comfort zone on the ground, or ignore their fear of heights and stretch their arms and take the steps, then they'll just stay right where they are, no matter how hard they're pushed, missing out on the better view. Its best to just leave them be with the chickens on the ground so you can enjoy your climb with the eagles.

“Just when all seems to be going right, challenges often come in multiple doses, applied simultaneously. When those trials are not consequences of your disobedience, they are evidence that the Lord feels you are prepared to grow more. He therefore gives you experiences that stimulate growth, understanding, and compassion which polish you for your everlasting benefit.” -Richard G. Scott

Trial: A God-Given opportunity to stretch, self examine, self correct, step into the dark in faith and succeed against all odds. 

There's no better feeling than looking at the man in the glass eye to eye and confidently determining he has been refined by Him and is much better off than had he shrunk in the face of difficulty. Restraint builds strength. Satan will always lose this battle!!! For God and His faithful are well prepared for all tribulation because their faith is in the One who already descended, defeated, and rose above all vice and mediocrity, nourishing His with awesome optimism, unlimited virtue and excellent power!

Just as faith and doubt cannot coexist, neither can paradise and a lone heart #realtalk

It isn't "God or nothing." It is God First; then everything else follows.

"It eluded us then, but that's no matter--tomorrow we will run faster, stretch out our arms farther... So we beat on, boats against the current..." The Great Gatsby

"The flame shall not hurt thee, I only design, thy dross to consume, thy gold to refine...
The soul, though all hell should endeavor to shake, I'll never, no never, no never forsake!"

"Man is more himself, more manlike, when joy is the fundamental thing in him, and grief the superficial. Melancholy should be an innocent interlude, a tender and fugitive frame of mind; praise should be the permanent pulsation of the soul. Pessimism is at best an emotional half-holiday; joy is the uproarious labour by which all things live." - GK Chesterton 

"Some blessings come soon, some come late, and some don't come until heaven; but for those who embrace the gospel of Jesus Christ, they come." Jeffrey R. Holland

No one lets it be except that circumstance where people out of the blue give criticism towards you and saying look at this guy, we thought he was perfect but look at him, he made a mistake."

God left the world unfinished for man to work his skill upon. He left the electricity in the cloud, the oil in the earth. He left the rivers unbridged and the forests unfelled and the cities unbuilt. God gives to man the challenge of raw materials, not the ease of finished things. He leaves the pictures unpainted and the music unsung and the problems unsolved, that man might know the joys and glories of creation.



If you can't handle the heat, don't tickle the dragon

“So comes snow after fire, and even dragons have their ending.”

“The man who fights too long against dragons becomes a dragon himself”

"To love another person is to see the face of God." 
-V.H.

If i'm gonna be knocked off this pedestal I'm gonna make sure I do something and I do something, to be knocked off. I'm not gonna let someone else knock me off for no apparent reason or for comments I didn't say - Michael Jordan

Michael McConkie
Bryce Forbush
John Allred
Michael Easterling

A mountain of others who made 2013 the best year yet!